My wife approached me because she feels as if her words to our daughter often go unheeded. I concluded that a delicate approach was necessary:
Me: "Well, honey, perhaps she regards you more as a friend and confidant than as a mother."
Her: "Then why does she always share her problems with you and not me?"
Me: "Well, maybe that's because she doesn't want to disappoint you."
Her: "If she doesn't want to disappoint me, then why does she ignore me?"
Me: "Uh. Yes. Well, perhaps because she knows you won't resort to physical violence?"
I woke up with our daughter calmly asking when I was going to learn to listen to mommy.